Disarming your Toddler's Biting Problem

Somewhere between one and three years old, toddlers tend to start a biting habit. This is a normal phase of toddler development. The most common reason for this problem is that this is one of the few ways that toddlers can effectively communicate with others. Not all children are biters, however. Some grab, shove, pinch or punch. That's probably just as bad!

Another reason that toddlers bite is that they feel frustrated because their motor and communication skills are so limited at this time.

A toddler likely finds it amusing when mommy jumps straight up, or a little friend starts crying. Another possible cause of biting behavior is related to teething; if they can put a teething ring in their mouth, why not someone's ear? The cause might even be as basic as being hungry.

What means can you use to help your child learn not to bite? It has to be completely understood that biting is bad behaviour and can hurt others. Point out how much pain it causes other children when your toddler bites them. Be sure to let your toddler know that biting is not allowed, that it's wrong, and that it makes you unhappy.

If you find that your child is biting due to frustration, give your toddler an alternative way to express to people they are having a difficult time. Even though teaching English seems to be a monumental task at this time, most toddlers can be taught words that are right for certain situations.

For example, “You need to tell mommy or daddy that you need help and not bite us." Or “Show mommy what you need, but don’t bite. You’ll hurt her if you bite, and I know you would never want to hurt mommy." This might induce a sense of shame for their actions, and they may think twice the next time before biting someone.

Parents should not let biting become the center of attention. This is true of all behavior that you do not want to see repeated. Let your toddler know, firmly yet gently, that biting is not permitted, that it's wrong and that it hurts everyone, grownup or child.